Has anyone ever hired an undercover detective for the purpose of outing a cheating spouse? I am looking for some recommendations/ tips. TIA 

I know we have a few that live in Kingwood, but I don't have numbers. Just having family in the business helps you know things. 

Has anyone ever hired an undercover detective for the purpose of outing a cheating spouse? I am looking for some recommendations/ tips. TIA why not just confront them instead of doing this? what happened to communication and talking? what do you expect to accomplish? 

Call Roula & Ryan's Roses! LOL! 

why not just confront them instead of doing this? I have, several times. He says I just want to argue about nothing. When texts are being sent that say "I love you" to another woman, that's pretty much my answer there. He just seems to think if he keeps denying it that it isn't happening. Call Roula & Ryan's Roses! LOL! LOL I have thought about it! But he is aware of the show and I wonder how much it would really work. But I guess it wouldn't hurt to try. 

Call Roula & Ryan's Roses! LOL! LOL I have thought about it! But he is aware of the show and I wonder how much it would really work. But I guess it wouldn't hurt to try. Nah.. I wouldn't if he knows the show. why not just confront them instead of doing this? what happened to communication and talking? what do you expect to accomplish? Buwhahaha! There was one time I tried that. Honey, are you cheating on me? No, honey why would I love that?? I love you! 

When texts are being sent that say "I love you" to another woman, that's pretty much my answer there uh, yea it is. why hire a detective? 

If you already know the answer, why do you need a detective??? By your own admission, you see texts to another woman saying 'i love you'. What more proof do you need??? Do you really think he would say 'yes, honey, I am cheating on you'... I think if saving your marriage is what your attempt to do is... you should spend that $$ on a counselor. Good Luck, and Best Wishes. 

Do you want to just bust him to say told you so? I think if saving your marriage is what your attempt to do is... you should spend that $$ on a Right and if not tell him to make sure the door doesn't hit him in the butt! 

Don't hire a detective. If you do and try to put that evidence in court if you divorce, your skeletons will come out too. Be careful and walk away! 

I think if saving your marriage is what your attempt to do is... you should spend that $$ on a counselor. Yes, you are right. One day he will agree to go. One day he will deny that he ever agreed to go. We have been through this over and over again. I have scheduled and had to cancel because he never said he would go to counseling. (when he sure did say he would go) I don't see divorce as an option, I am just worn out and confused and don't really know what to do with this situation anymore. 

I don't see divorce as an option, I am just worn out and confused and don't really know what to do with this situation anymore. Hmmm.. I see divorce as the very last option. I don't believe in just giving up but I don't think one should put up with another crap! 

You need to get involved in church activities (if you aren't already), maybe that will help. Also, when was the last time the two of you had a date night? If you want to make it work, schedule a date night and reconnect and get to know each other. It may help you grow back together! 

We had watched the movie Fireproof together, and it really gave me hope in our marriage. One problem is that he is constantly changing his mind as to what he wants out of life or anything really. 

that's pretty much my answer there. Seems like a detective would be a waste of money. 

that's pretty much my answer there. Seems like a detective would be a waste of money. So where do I go from there, then? 

Just call the TV show Cheaters. I don't think it cost anything. 

Just call the TV show Cheaters. I don't think it cost anything. Just one's dignity. 

If your heart is set on hiring a detective, then do it. Not trying to be rude or harsh, but it seems you have your mind made up. Look in the phone book and start calling and finding prices. Good luck! 

Have you thought about confronting or contacting the "other woman"? 

Not trying to be rude or harsh, but it seems you have your mind made up. Look in the phone book and start calling and finding prices. I am not set on hiring a detective, I just don't really know where to go from here. I figured someone had a recommendation, or else I would have "picked up the phone book" 

So where do I go from there, then? Where do you want to go? If you've already confronted him with this information and he keeps denying it, then he is either a fool or thinks you are one. Question is how long do you want to continue living a lie? 

Have you thought about confronting or contacting the "other woman"? I did contact her and she told him that she could no longer communicate with him. This was about four months ago. He sends her messages often, she rarely replies. 

What do you want? Do you want to know 100% that your SO is cheating? What will you do with the information? Your options: - Do nothing - Speak up and talk to your SO - Hire a detective/lawyer - Confront the other woman - Leave - Stay - Follow your heart! 

He sends her messages often, she rarely replies. He is reaching out for some reason. There is a "need" that she was fulfilling for him. Read the book His Needs Her Needs by Willard F Harley. This is a book that we read before we got married and when things get rough, we turn to the book for guidance. 

What do you want? Do you want to know 100% that your SO is cheating? What will you do with the information? Your options: - Do nothing - Speak up and talk to your SO - Hire a detective/lawyer - Confront the other woman - Leave - Stay - Follow your heart! Yeah what Yosamitesa said 

OK... you know he's cheating and divorce is not an option, so why hire a detective, to tell you something you already know, and aren't going to do anything about? 

OK... you know he's cheating and divorce is not an option, so why hire a detective, to tell you something you already know, and aren't going to do anything about? Yeah, what Fancy said too!!! 

Ok, so no one saw the movie Fireproof? I know it was cheesy at times, but imo was a great movie. Should I not rely on prayer? No one has had an experience like this and survived? 

Also, when was the last time the two of you had a date night? If you want to make it work, schedule a date night and reconnect and get to know each other. It may help you grow back together! You are joking, right? The man is likely putting his wiener is some nasty chic's (I say nasty because I am sure she KNOWS he is taken) taco and then she is going to turn around and try to reconnect??? With what? An inconsiderate, lying, cheating SOB? Not even H@ELL to the NO! Call your wireless provider and get a copy of the text/phone history and figure out the number. Call her and get some info and then you can lay all the info out on the table and go from there. When he knows he is truely busted and can no longer lie, then you can go from there. I personally would not stay. It would take a WHOLE lot of crying and begging and acknowledging the pain that I have been put through before I even thought for a flash of a second about sticking it out with someone who has no respect for me and the children we made together etc... 

- Speak up and talk to your SO It's not a significant other itsa spouse A significant other is jus a shacking up thing A spouse is real Get Counseling Quik if he wont go then go by yourself 

Houston P.I.'s Take your pick... 

Also, when was the last time the two of you had a date night? If you want to make it work, schedule a date night and reconnect and get to know each other. It may help you grow back together! You are joking, right? The man is likely putting his wiener is some nasty chic's (I say nasty because I am sure she KNOWS he is taken) taco and then she is going to turn around and try to reconnect??? With what? An inconsiderate, lying, cheating SOB? Not even H@ELL to the NO! Call your wireless provider and get a copy of the text/phone history and figure out the number. Call her and get some info and then you can lay all the info out on the table and go from there. When he knows he is truely busted and can no longer lie, then you can go from there. I personally would not stay. It would take a WHOLE lot of crying and begging and acknowledging the pain that I have been put through before I even thought for a flash of a second a out sticking it out with someone who has no respect for me and the two children we made together etc... She already said she doesn't want a divorce. She already said she did confront the other woman months ago. She said he is the one still instigating it, not the other woman. She said she already confronted him and he keeps denying it. She needs to make up her mind if she wants to find out for sure by hiring a PI or if she wants to stay or leave. It sounds like she wants to stay with him. Her call, her life. 

A significant other is jus a shacking up thing A spouse is real I don't entirely agree, because your spouse is your significant other. They are the other significant part of you! 

If divorce isn't an option, then you must either live with the situation or demand he talks to you to clear it up. If you have anyplace to go, you might try leaving for a few days and see what happens. Obviously, you have a child with him, right? 

i did my own detective work cause mine was not the sharpest penicil in the box and i found him meeting his woman after work belive it or not i was pretty calm i drove over to them and confronted them both.. he was caught there was nothing he could say.. i couldnt prove how involved they were so we worked through it.. later he had another one i saw her number atleast 20 times a day on my phone bill so i called her.. busted again.. sometimes doing your own investigation work will work.. good luck and sorry your going through this.. 

Thanks for all of the advice. I forgot to mention, they work together...if this changes anything. 

Obviously, you have a child with him, right? yes. two. 

I forgot to mention, they work together...if this changes anything. It is up to you, but if you think really funny business is going on, then contact the company. Most companies have no relationships in the office. However, if you do this, they could both lose their jobs. 

I don't entirely agree, because your spouse is your significant other. They are the other significant part of you! Well put!!! I take it back