that suffers from depression.... Please get them the help that you/they need. I know that there is a stigma attached for taking "happy" pills, but if you need them please take them and continue to speak with a professional who can help you through this.

If you have a loved one that suffers from depression please make sure to be there for them and to help if you can. I know it can be hard as they're not themselves.

So many people suffer in the dark with depression or are made to feel as if they're just taking the easy way out by getting medication. NO amount of postive thinking can make depression just go away.

Today 1 year ago my husband's sister killed herself leaving behind 3 of her own kids and 3 step-children.

She suffered with depression for a long time, but hid a lot of her pain from us. Her husband knew, but didn't care to let her family members know. He was too busy having an affair.

Anyway, There are many groups that can help that are discrete. I know Family Time in Humble is a great place.

I would do anything to have Stef back and I wouldn't wish for anyone to go through what we have and are still going through. The pain is still so fresh. 

So true and so sad! Sorry you all are going through this. I think about her kids all the time and pray that you all can find some peace and a refuge from the pain. 

i can't believe it has been a year already. i am so sorry. hoping for the best for her children. (also hoping sassy will stay the heck off of this thread. or else.) 

It's been 1 tough year. Her kids are as best as can be expected. It's been really tough on her only daughter.


My one wish is for people to wake up and help those that can't help themselves. Most people who have depression will NOT ask for help. 

I lost my brother-in-law just over a year ago to suicide. We were all very close and very involved in each others lives. Although he was getting help, sadly he hit a low spot and saw only one way out. We were devastated and still ask ourselves what else we could have done. 

Elizabeth, I remember well the sadness you and your family went through. I am sorry it is still so fresh, but I imagine her daughter will always have issues with why her Mom left her. That would be hard for a child to understand. It is good she has you.
Ghostpost, I can't imagine having someone I am so close to do this and not know if I could have done more. Our youth of today have so much on their shoulders that I am constantly checking on my teen and young adult family members. I always remember to tell them I love them. I have a niece in law that I am very close and she has depression and when taking her meds is fine, otherwise not so good. I try and check in on her every day.
Don't forget to say you love the person you are walking away from, emailing, or saying goodbye to on the phone. I always want to know I told them if it is the last time we speak. 

Lbb, I tell my family the same thing. You never know when it's the last time you'll say goodbye.

For my husband, he and his sister hadn't spoken in a year. So the guilt he feels is horrible. I kept in touch with her but because of their fight it was hard. Looking back he knows it was over something sooo stupid. 

*sigh*

My brother shot himself a while back. Why? He was berated and harassed.
I'm so sorry for your lost everyone.
I take his memory and try to make a difference in someones life daily.

Here's a Great Big Warm Mushy ((HUG)) 

I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. :(

Depression is very real and very misunderstood. 

I'm so sorry Shana. Hugs to you too! 

i agree elizabeth.. i watched my ex bil go through bouts of depression and family tried to get help but he passed away and i cant prove it but i still believe he ended his own life.. i am now watching someone i am very close to go through it.. they are on medication and it makes a big difference but it is a struggle to watch them live in such a depressed state and you feel powerless to do anything 

Depression is very real and very misunderstood.

Ditto
Just like post pardum....ive warned both of my step daughters and the dss baby momma about it and let them know I was there if they wanted to talk and made sure I check in on them. I had it really bad and it took me a couple of months to get out of it.

My daughter is prone to "depressive" episodes so I keep a close eye on her. 

Just like post pardum....

That was a major part of my SIL's depression. She has post pardum very bad with her last baby, and I don't think it was diagnosed for a long time and by then I think it was just so much worse. 

praying for all who suffer with this!! It's the the worst "entrapment" in the world!!

So so very sorry to hear of your SIL Elizabeth!! Prayers and hugs!! 

If you don't have depression, true depression, then you can never understand what we go through. I have spent 11 years with my husband and he does not understand me or what I live with. Agony. For those of you who are concerned about a loved one, do them a favor and learn about their mind. If you cannot see life through their eyes, you cannot help them.

-needing help badly 

see a doctor-psychiatrist- 

If you need help, go see your doctor. If you need immediate help, there are hotlines you can call and talk to a very caring and concerned person at any time.

Your doctor ( a regular MD general doctor ) can help you. Just put one foot in front of the other and go.

You can also go to a psychiatrist. Either is fine depending on what you want. 

Go to the ER now if you are feeling helpless. Just don't wait. I have extended family members that really have some chemistry missing and they say it changed everything for them. I am sure you have family that cares. Hugs.. 

Many prayers for you kmart2201....... depression is an illness, just like diabetes or any other illness. Once properly diagnosed, there is medication out there to correct it. 

Many prayers for all that suffer. So many of is have lost loved ones. :(