If one of your child's friend's parents, verbally attacked your child without provocation? 

Find out why she went nuts, possibly freak om her, and then not let your kid be alone with that crazy biotch. 

Ruh roh. Most sensitive subject when you mix all those factors together. I'd say remain calm cuz you are gonna be pissed. Then you have to, at some point, talk to each other and get the low down on what happened.

If it's just your kid's version of what happened, there might be some missing links, lol. If not and they were attacked for no reason, she owes you an apololgy, just that simple. 

Call 'em up and find out what's what. Maybe it wasn't without provocation. 

I know all the details on both sides. Long story short:

My daughter's been friends with this kid for a long time. But only friends, never anything romantic. My daughter recently started dating another boy and this friend of hers was hurt. His mother took it personally, and called me at 7:30 the next morning. Things were said between the mother and I, it didn't go well.

The friend tried to call my daughter today and she missed the call, when she tried to call him back, his mother answered and just went ape-crazy on my daughter. To the point where my daughter was hysterical.

It was so unnecessary and so wrong. I'm sorry this boy is hurt, but, my daughter did nothing and I'm just shocked at how crazy and inappropriate people can be. :(

Makes me sick to my stomach. 

Some Mothers need to butt out! 

Call 'em up and find out what's what.


yeah, that didn't go well either....lol. 

So, the boy had feelings for your daughter that she didn't share. And when she went out with someone else, the boy got hurt and mommy got mad??

That's totally uncalled for. Parents can be nuts, read some of these other threads, LOL! I'm VERY surprised that a teenaged boy would EVEN TELL his mother something like that. They will vent to friends but usually not their mother about something like that. Heck, most boys don't tell their mothers much of anything that they consider personal/girl stuff.

She just vented on your DD cuz she's mad her baby is hurt. Way to be a grown up. Stupid. Immature.

ETA: Wish I could be a mouse in the room when THAT conversation was going on! 

The mom sounds like a witch.

I think if I were in your shoes I'd tell her(daughter) that it's not her fault. Obviously this boy, and his mother, can't see that your daughter doesn't like him in that sense. I'd suggest that she not speak with him possibly due to how immature, and crude his mother was towards both of you.

Situations like this are tough. But we as parents need to let our children go through the motions of romance. It's how we learn right from wrong in that aspect, and what best suits us. Obviously his mother doesn't 'get it'. 

Situations like this are tough. But we as parents need to let our children go through the motions of romance. It's how we learn right from wrong in that aspect,

Yup! 

Completely inappropriate.

The mother should apologize to your daughter.

What the heck is WRONG with people? 

Obviously his mother doesn't 'get it'. 


You have no idea.... :(


I feel bad, because this boy is such a good kid, he really is. But, apparently he and his mother, read more into the kids friendship and cannot handle my daughter dating another boy. My daughter has ALWAYS made it clear that they were just friends. For those who know my kid, trust me, this isn't some wolf in sheep's clothing.

I'm just shocked at how this situation has panned out.

I never in a MILLION YEARS saw this coming. :( 

Do you know the mother well? If I knew her well and I had a good relationship with her (other than the stuff going on between the kids) I would call her and see if we could meet for coffee or something and talk. Maybe her son is having some other issues..such as school problems or social things going on..that has her feeling more overly emotional and hyper protective. I would want her to know how she hurt my child and our friendship and depending on what was said to my child..give her a chance to apologize to her. Sometimes that is better for your kid in the long run rather than just completely cut off the relationship and leaving your child feeling like she is somehow responsible.

On the other hand, if I wasn't close to the mom other than our children being friends I might call her (again depending on what was said) and tell her that in the future she is not to talk to my child about her son and their friendship and if she has something to say she needs to contact me. Then i would cut off my contact with her and make sure my child is no where near her.

The main thing is...making sure your daughter is not feeling responsible or guilty. I would encourage her to branch out and hopefully move on from this friendship because it may never be healthy. Its a shame, because left along, kids usually work these things ot on their own. 

That's really sad that your DD and the boy probably can't be friends now because of his mother?? How awkward. If she would have butted out and left it be, they would have worked it out..but whatever would have happened would be on their terms, the way it should be. 

I do know the mother well, our friendship is over, especially now.

It didn't have to be this way and I'm just shocked as hell over this situation.

I don't want to stop the kids from being friends, but, the mother is so overbearing in her son's life, I don't think I could keep my daughter away from her. I don't want any contact with the mother and I sure as hell don't want her around my child.

How can the kids be friends with that being the case? 

Did the other mom go off on your dd because of what your dd did or because of how your conversation went with her? Either way, it's uncalled for, but the conversation you have with your daughter and the direction her relationship with her friend goes could depend on that information. 

How can the kids be friends with that being the case?

They probably can't..that is what is sad. Left along they might have been able to maintain a good relationship and after her son got over his hurt, they might have become friends again. With mom's involvement, that isn't likely. You have to look after your child first and foremost and can't have a situation like you described repeat itself. 

i feel sorry for the kids. 

i feel sorry for the kids. 

Ditto. 

Did the other mom go off on your dd because of what your dd did or because of how your conversation went with her? Either way, it's uncalled for, but the conversation you have with your daughter and the direction her relationship with her friend goes could depend on that information. 

She went off on my daughter saying "How dare you call here! Don't you EVER call her again, after what you did to my son!" and a few other more colorful things, then hung up on her.

My daughter was just returning a missed phone call from this woman's son. :|

How should I deal with that? How should my daughter deal with that?

Seriously....what adult does this???

I haven't spoken to this woman's son at all, nor would I. It's not my place. 

I agree grandma, the kids are the ones that will get hurt. Maybe your daughter will 'outgrow' her friendship with the boy? 

The male friend should have grown a pair, instead of getting stuck in the 'friend zone'. 

I'd just love to know what the boy thinks right now? I mean the Psycho Mom embarrassed the heck out of him? 

I haven't spoken to this woman's son at all, nor would I. It's not my place.

Exactly. Parents have to know their boundaries. It is sad, but at this point it is probably for the best that your daughter is moving on. 

Maybe your daughter will 'outgrow' her friendship with the boy? 


What do you mean? 

the poor boy probably does not even know the real truth or he would be so embarrassed.

the mom is probably one who does lots of hollering at others when things don't go her way.

this is a really sad story....because of the kids. 

What do you mean?
Just that maybe she will make other friends as she grows older. I am sorry your daughter is going through this. An adult having an argument with another adult is one thing but an adult belittling (or whatever) a child is another thing. 

the poor boy probably does not even know the real truth or he would be so embarrassed.

the mom is probably one who does lots of hollering at others when things don't go her way.

this is a really sad story....because of the kids. 


It really is...and if you had seen my daughter, your heart would have broken. It was horrible what this woman said to my child. I would NEVER do this to anyone's kid in a million years, I don't care WHAT the situation is. :( 

Just that maybe she will make other friends as she grows older. I am sorry your daughter is going through this. An adult having an argument with another adult is one thing but an adult belittling (or whatever) a child is another thing. 


she will...and she's a good kid with a good heart. She likes everyone. And this boy is a good kid! He just got stuck with a very overbearing mother who apparently has no boundaries. :( 

"Breathe in. Breathe out. Move on." - Jimmy Buffett 

"Breathe in. Breathe out. Move on." - Jimmy Buffett 


My husband said the same thing! LOL!

I'm just so angry for my daughter...I can't express how angry and upset this situation makes me for my child.

It's like Mama Bear on steroids! 

If your going to air all this 'drama'....you might want to get the facts right momof5.

The way you twist things, is unreal.

I agree with most, the kids are the innocent ones here, and I certainly feel for them....BOTH.

I answered the phone and told your dd to not call my ds as this situation was not very healthy right now....period.
Yes, my son is upset, not because dd has a bf, because of what YOU did yesterday (which is unforgivable, and totally unnecessary). We wont go there....way to long.

My son asked me to speak to her after and apologize which I did. For them. It is not your dd's fault, and I do not want to punish her.

You sure twist things, which is very disturbing, and how these kids can just be kids and remain friends is beyond me.
My heart goes out to them both.
I only hope you can step back and let them be.

Say what you will...I really dont care, I do however care about the kids. If you do as well, you will stop with irrational behavior and let them be.

They are both great kids.

I'm not getting into it with you anymore. Your behavior is way out of line, you are irrational, and WE dont need to be friends. Check yourself, and let your kid be.
I wont allow the drama, or craziness in my ds life, so let them sort things out. 

Woah. Shizz just got real. 

You are so full of crap, LTP.

Everyone knows you, knows how you are...and I believe what my daughter told me.

What happened yesterday, happened between you and I...not the kids.

YOU made it about the kids. You were pissed when I said I didn't want my daughter to stay in a condo for the anime convention with you and your son because I felt it was inappropriate and my husband and I felt uncomfortable with it.

YOU wouldn't accept that response and kept trying to argue with me over a decision MY HUSBAND AND I made for OUR child!!! You called my cell phone NINE TIMES left me TWO nasty VM messages to the point where I had to call you back, end the friendship and unfriend you on FB.

Your son wouldn't have known anything about our situation had you not involved him in it.

then YOUR BEHAVIOR with my daughter tonight? WTF??? she's a 15 year old girl! You're a 50 year old woman! Shouldn't you know better???

You need to seek psychiatric help, big time. 

uh oh. I'm outta here. 

Woah. Shizz just got real.


yeah, the crazy train finally arrived at the thread. 

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