Guess I'm being a good mom. I sometimes hate the way that feels though. She wanted to go to a party. I was not impressed with some of those on the guest list....so I said no. :(. She ended up watching a movie with us at home. dad took her to pick out a movie and get chocolate ice cream. She came in the door and threw my favorite candy bar at me and hit me in the head with it. I guess everything is forgiven... whew.... :) 

Lol. She will thank you when she is 30, but probably not until then. 

You did the right thing, but it could've been worst ...

She could've thrown a can of V8 at you ... J/K. 

Hope she doesn't keep harping on it over and over after it's over and whine about it being the worst thing that's ever happened to her.

Life is so unfair. 

Next time tell her to call the host and see if it is okay if she brings you along! lol 

Next time tell her to call the host and see if it is okay if she brings you along!

She would hate that, but if mom is welcome to stay at the party you can prety much be sure that nothing bad is going to happen. Do it sometime. Parents do need to get involved more. 

She came in the door and threw my favorite candy bar at me and hit me in the head with it.

Wow, am I the only one that finds this disrespectful? We don't throw things at people much less at adults/parents in our home. I even apologize if I accidentally throw coins toward a cashier. It is very disrespectful.

I find no problem with the rest of your comment, you are the parent & therefore you set the parameters for your kids well being. I would have done the same thing. But my child would not have thrown anything at me.

I will probably end up get nasty comments on this but its ok. 

Wow, am I the only one that finds this disrespectful? We don't throw things at people much less at adults/parents in our home. I even apologize if I accidently throw coins toward a cashier. It is very disrespectful.

I agree with you. Even if she didn't try to hit you in the head with the candy, it was a very disrespectful way to give you your candy. I understand why your dd is upset, even though she may not agree with you, but this is not how she should have reacted. 

Wow, am I the only one that finds this disrespectful?

I have to agree. Its pretty disrespectful. You were probably didn't want to add to her misery, but I wouldn't just let that slide. (Maybe you didn't.) 

Wow, am I the only one that finds this disrespectful?

You are not. Punishment would be swift for this act of disrespect at my house....

Having said that.....my children are 36 and 40....... so i don't think they would do it.....lol........but if i witnessed my grandchildren do it to them........I'd freak and i think so would they 

Agreed, but the child is going through some major changes and trauma in her home life and being a 14 yr old girl is hard to start with. I'm not condoning it but empathy is needed here. Hopefully Mom or Dad sat down and brought out the Bible with her. 

I know if i had thrown something at one of my parents out of anger, i would have quickly regretted it. 

Wow, am I the only one that finds this disrespectful?

No, You are not the only one to think that was very disrespectful. The parents of this girl must not think much of her or themselves. That would not happen in my house. She needs to be taught to respect her parents but if she has not learned that by now she most likely will never learn it. 

Agreed, but the child is going through some major changes and trauma in her home life and being a 14 yr old girl is hard to start with. I'm not condoning it but empathy is needed here. Hopefully Mom or Dad sat down and brought out the Bible with her. 

I believe in the teachings of the Bible. I was raised by very religious parents, but if i had thrown something at one of my parents, it wouldnt have been the Bible they would have used on me. 

I would not even have thought it an option to act that way, but that's just me I guess 

I was even affraid to go into my own bedroom and make obscene gestures towards them through the wall. Somehow, I just knew they would catch me. 

I was even affraid to go into my own bedroom and make obscene gestures towards them through the wall. Somehow, I just knew they would catch me.


That's called GUILT. It's a darn powerful tool. :P 

Maybe a little fear thrown in there too. 

By not allowing her to go to a party because you didn't like some of the kids attending, just insured she'll seek those kids out as much as possible now....behind your back, of course.

Good luck with that....lol. 

Depends on the personality of the kid, some do that while others dont. 

Made me a very rebelious child when i was growing up. The more my mom said NO to everything the more I did it behind her back. 

She is being 14. There is a battle ahead as it was/will be for all of us. Good luck. I hope she survives! (I hope dad said something to her about the candy throwing incident) My mom still scolds me for cussing.:D 

It was not thrown in anger..... Geez.... It was thrown at me playfully as if to say... It's okay mom. I understand. 

I would not even have thought it an option to act that way

That was my point in bringing it up, I would never have done that to my parents and my kids have never done it to us. The fact that she's 14 is not an excuse in my eyes. It's tough being a parent too and not letting our kids do everything that they want to do. 

She was not being disrespectful. She was being playful. She chunked the candy bar at me and came in to give me a hug. Good grief people. I was proud of her for going on a ride with dad to cool off and bring me a peace offering and a hug. Guess I should have explained the scenario better. 

I think we get it now.

She came in the door and threw my favorite candy bar at me and hit me in the head with it.

Sounds different than:

She was being playful. She chunked the candy bar at me and came in to give me a hug. 

It was not thrown in anger..... Geez.... It was thrown at me playfully as if to say... It's okay mom. I understand.

Sounds like me and my kid...not disrespectful at all...its all in fun 

Illnevertell we have a 15 year old. The whole scenario you had tonight is alot like what we deal with. They get mad, cool off and all is well in our world again. Parenting is tough at this age. My husband keeps telling me that we'll get through it. Although sometimes I wonder. :-) 

It is ok to say NO to your kids. It won't kill them. They get mad and they'll get over it. 

She misses some of her friends and I understand that. Some she is allowed to maintain friendships with and others not. Sometimes you just want them to put some old friendships behind them and move forward. We can make other arrangements to see the friends that were/are good for her. She just didn't need to dig up any old hurt feelings or drama with a few of the kiddos who were going to be in attendance. We had a good day today. She understands and realizes that there will be good fun opportunities made available as an alternative. 

I dislike ALL my DD's friends! She even admits they are Losers. 

Maybe she missses the dogs you heartlessly dumped for your convenience. Yah think? 

Oh. My. Gosh. There is rude, there is hateful, andthen there is this. ^^^^^^