Is there anything I can do about a neighbor, adult, who yells disparaging remarks at my disabled child?
He has yelled, from his yard, across the street at my intellectually disabled child and I. My daughter was nearby, in the driveway, and started crying. We had just spent half the weekend and all day Monday at Texas Children?s Hospital. Tuesday morning I helped my son take the trash can to the curb, he needed help half way there. Once my son, 8 years old, got it to the curb he started to clap (showing how proud he was to have accomplished the task). The man across the street yelled over ?Maybe you should learn to bring the trash can back up in the afternoon and pick up the papers that have been sitting there for two days!?
My son just went about his chore, walking back towards me. My daughter, 11 year old, who was standing by our car in the drive way was mortified. She thinks other people heard him and feel the same way about us. That all our neighbors hate her, she?s at that age where acceptance is important. I?ve used the incident as a teaching moment for both kids. She is still very worried about this neighbor. She doesn?t even want to trick or treat on our street because this guy normally sits outside to hand out candy. I actually share her concerns. Even skipping that house what do I do if he yells at my child/ren again? 

Wow, I am so sorry about your troubles. It makes me sick that people act this way. My first question to you is do you have a husband or brother or father? Any males in your life that can talk to your neighbor? Sometimes a man to man approach works. 

Put a bag of crap on their front porch.


That's so disgusting, I'll deliver it for you! 

Invite him over, and kick his azz- 

Only male I know would be my landlord. I'm a single mother renting the home we live in. 

Have you spoken to your landlord about the situation? 

Lmao! 

I did talk to my landlord. He says tell him to call HOA and complain if he doesn't like how the yard is kept up (papers sitting out). 

Very cute little girl. Lol 

Just wondering why there are question marks in your original post- that's what happens when you cut and paste- 

I will add that he has always let his 2 Boxer dogs loose in front yard. My daughter and son have been terrified of them since we moved in. But they do stay in his yard, mostly. 

You changed your name! Why? You dropped the Y. :( 

I got worried about using my real name, after seeing everyone's awesome usernames. lol 

I typed it in word and c/p because my spelling sucks. 

Bake him some cookies and take them over to him...kill him with kindness. 

sounds like a great place for a KU get together, maybe 40 or 50 of us, with pitchforks, torches, and pikes. 

WTH is that guy's problem??...he sounds unhinged...who the hell yells at a mom and a challenged kid?!??!? 

sounds like a great place for a KU get together, maybe 40 or 50 of us

Yea! Let's have a driveway party at Mary's house!
(But we can't invite Bob!) 

Bob won't talk to me anymore, if he finds out- it has to be dark outside- 

Call HPD and ask them for advise. 

I wasn't there and don't know the tone of what he said, but could it be he was just making a comment about not taking the trash can back up to the house at the end of the day and picking up papers that have laid out for days. From what you said, it didn't sound like he was making fun of your son, he was just wanting things done in a timely manner. 

Call HPD and ask them for advise.

That's what u would do. Maybe ask an officer to come out and talk to him. File a complaint against him for harassment and get a protection order. That way he can't even speak to you or your family.

That's the only serious advice that I could really give you. 

Wow, he sounds like a real azz! Why do some people move to a neighborhood and then think they can tell those who move there after what to do? We have one of those on our street, he tries to tell everyone here how to live and take care of their property but thinks none of the rules apply to him! Jerks, they are everywhere!

He should not be yelling at anyone much less a child and to top it off a disabled child? He has some major issues! Although I doubt it would do any good, maybe go talk to him and explain your situation and how it made your family feel? 

Seriously?! What a jerk! Who does that? Maybe he has some intellectual problems as well.

I second with the advice to call the police and ask how this should be handled. 

His tone was angry with a capital A. I could have handled a simple "hey could you grab your paper."

The HOA here is intense. They inspect every week. I've gotten one letter in the 2 years I've been here, about one spot of hardiplank needing cleaned.

I honestly don't know why this guy would dislike us. It's not like there's weeks of papers setting out there. My kids don't play near his house. We keep to ourselves.

I think if he does it again I will call HPD to make sure it's documented. That way if it comes to a RO I shouldn't have a problem. 

What village? He sounds like an unhappy man. he probably drives his poor wife crazy.
I wouldn't sweat it. 

What has he said directed at your son? 

Is there anything I can do about a neighbor

Buy a bunch of fish. wait until night time when he goes to bed. Go over dig a fairly shallow indention in the garden put the loads of dead fish and loosely cover it back with dirt. Just barely though. Enough so he cant see the fish but not too much that way the smell has a nice chance to rise up and permeated the front of his house. Pay attention over the next week and laugh as the putrid smells drives him freaking insane.

Smile. 

WTH is that guy's problem

Sounds like his issue is more with the fact the house is a rental and is concerned his property value will go down.

He is being stupid.

If he has that concern he should talk to you or your landlord, not a child. He is a buttwipe pure and simple. 

Put a bag of crap on their front porch.

That's so disgusting, I'll deliver it for you!

SighFi can often be a source of artistic inspiration, a muse. Her latest offering inspired me to recall a much lower profile delivery mechanism for the same message that this guy must receive.

What you need to do is do business with our good friends at Poopsenders.com. They have the perfect gift(s) for this deserving recipient. I recommend the combo platter. 

No doubt that the guy is an azz....however, does he know your son is disabled? I think his comments were directed at you and not at him.

If it were me, I would have yelled back: "Yeah, sorry about that...we just spent three days up at Texas Children's...I was more concerned with that, than how my news papers and trashcans were affecting you. Will you be ok? Anything else you want to discuss while you're yelling from your driveway? 

Like DP... 

A quick thank you and update. Best possible solution happened, they didn't give out candy this year.

He appears to be steering clear of us for the time being. I appreciate everyone's advice and laughs. Thank you 

Glad it worked out. Just don't let him steal your joy and keep cheering on your little guy and his milestones. 

sounds like a moron. i'd call the h.o.a. with any slight infraction of deed restrictions this jerk has. i hope you egged him on halloween. 

DP had the perfect response. 

Hahaha, I was going to make an unproductive comment like "Go Texas on him" and show him your gun! However thankfully it's better and yes DP had a great response.