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whatchamacallit 3
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FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

get a hearing aid?

My dad has needed a hearing aid for a long time. His hearing is only getting worse and it is hard to carry on a conversation with him. The grandkids find it hard to talk with their grandfather. It is sad to me because they could learn so much from him. How can we go about getting him to get a hearing aid? My mother thinks that having a hearing aid will only make his hearing worse. I think that's a bunch of cra.p. She is no help in this endeavor. 

whatchamacallit --- 6 years ago -

It's just about impossible to force someone to do something like this if they don't want to do it! My father thinks that if he gets a hearing aid that it won't do any good and end up being a waste of money...we pretty much have the same thing going on that you do! He can't hear us or carry on a conversation but once you are speaking loud enough for you to hear him, he gets offended and wants to know why you are yelling at him?! What to do?

Does anyone here have a hearing aid or know someone that has gotten one and what is your/their opinion on them? Did it work? Was it a waste of time and money? 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

You can't. And if you do you might still have the problem of making them wear it. It's hard to have a conversation with someone who can't hear you or can't hear correctly. It's hard to hear them sometimes because they speak so low as well. shrug. It's frustrating. But sometimes I simply tell them, "Please put your hearing aid in..."Please get a hearing aid..." I am having trouble talking to you and it frustrates me so I will be quiet now.

DH has a hearing aid. It has tiny wire that goes into his ear like a ear bud. You can't even see it. Around the back of his ear he chose a color to look like the back of his eyeglasses. It's practically undetectable. He said it opened up the world for him. Like your vision, you lose hearing so gradually that you don't realize what you are not hearing. The very first thing he told the Audiologist was, "I can hear your keyboard! I've never heard that before!" He has been missing out on a lot of things for a lot of time. It took a few months to acclimate his brain to accept the new things he was hearing without being astonished by everyday things like that. But he falls into the category of sometimes not wearing it. Why? I will never understand!! 

whatchamacallit --- 6 years ago -

So, the hearing aid works for him but he chooses not to wear it sometimes? That is strange, maybe he got used to the quite and misses it? I can't imagine not wanting to hear properly but I believe my father may just fall into that category! 

sheddy --- 6 years ago -

Maybe you can tell him that is the only thing any of you want for Christmas. My mother in law and a great aunt both needed hearing aids and got them. Neither one would wear them. I guess adjusting and getting used to them was too much work. Can you pull something on line where he can see what the process entails? Maybe find someone who has one can tell him the difference it has made in their life. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

My dh is not "old" per se. He has damage in one ear hence his hearing loss. The doc says the great thing about him having the hearing aid now at his age, is that he has the capacity to learn how to use it. Whereas some Elders have trouble learning technology. I think that is why some, like my mother, won't use it. It's more tricks for her to learn how it functions vs just let everyone speak louder. Not so sure what DHs thing is? Lazy? Stubborn? Or maybe he got used to not hearing? His one easy has had severe loss for quite some time. The ONLY reason we got it was i told him insurance coveredall but 10% ($30). And he needed to take advantage of it considering all the insurance changes of late. At least he's frugal enough to understand that.

But to help you convince you Loved One into getting it, the test these days are super easy. Simply read a list of simple words and the computer does the rest. It shows which hard and soft sounds are missing. I.e. DH hears "fist" insets of "fish", he can't get the soft "shh" sounds among others. Was very interesting to watch. Then the computer, via Bluetooth helps adjust everything. Adjustments are made slowly over a period of 3-6 mos, depending on the person. It's to help the brain accept everyday new sound so they are not startled, or turn their head to look every time a leaf drops. Highly recommended Audiologist Dr. Mekenzie Hill in the Med Center, Hermann Medical Plaza on Fannin. This young woman knows her stuff! She she's in the offices with ENTs Dr. Ron Karney et al. 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

Ok, which one of you here is my daughter masquerading as someone else? 

AwesomeTattooedDragon --- 6 years ago -

HA! My father needed them for 20 years before he finally gave in. My mom even had a doctor come to the house and test him! He refused to believe him, and even insinuated the doctor was doing it for money! When he finally did it, he liked them, and would turn them off if he didn't want to hear my mother nag! (I hope you read this, Emp!) 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

(I hope you read this, Emp!)

But I don't need one, its my daughter (and most other folks) who don't enunciate her words properly. 

RedMulch --- 6 years ago -

Ok, which one of you here is my daughter masquerading as someone else?


I know, lol. I am losing my hearing in one ear and hearing things that don't happen out of the other. lol 

Gigix4 --- 6 years ago -

I am losing my hearing in one ear and hearing things that don't happen out of the other.

I'm starting to get the hang of "selective hearing" ... works for me! :) 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

Ok, which one of you here is my daughter masquerading as someone else??

LOL! Not me, I promise! My parents, unfortunately do not live here. If they did, I would have made him get a hearing aid long ago. I told him he needed to have one before he came back to visit but he came back without one at Thanksgiving. They will be here for Christmas but he still has not gotten one. So, I'm going to take him to have his hearing checked over the holidays. I want to talk to the doctor and find out if he can be helped. I'm very concerned about him. I think it makes him unhappy because he can not hear and feels left out when there is a crowd. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

My cousin took her husband to Costco and was pleased with the testing procedure there. Maybe they hearing aids are affordable there? They run $2000-$3700 depending on the model in doctor's offices. 

Jpgirl --- 6 years ago -

You can not make an adult do anything they don't want.

My Dad was deaf in one ear because of the engine noise in his plane in WWII. He had several hearing aids but hated them- perhaps technology is better these days- but 10 years ago he complained that there was white noise and made it even harder to hear or that voices sounded high pitched and hollow.
We just grew up speaking clearly and a bit louder and looking directly at him when talking. And yes we had to repeat things. He was good at lip reading as he aged. My kids learned at an early age how to talk to PaPa.Honestly, what I wouldn't give to have one more day with my Dad-speaking loudly and repeating every thing I said.
Enjoy the time - try to adapt to it- it's only for a few days. 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

try to adapt to it- it's only for a few days.?

I know and we have adapted but when here is a big crowd he seems left out. The point is, he could find out for sure if he could be helped. He chooses not to. It is not because of money. 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

My father thinks that if he gets a hearing aid that it won't do any good and end up being a waste of money...we pretty much have the same thing going on that you do!

He should try it. Can't you return the hearing aid if it does not work for you? Mine thinks the same thing but also thinks it will make him look old. I know people much younger with hearing aids and it does not make them look old. 

Dorothy Parker --- 6 years ago -

Tell him he's choosing vanity over his family. Why would he rather "look young" than hear what's being said by everyone? Maybe that will put it in perspective for him. 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

For his age, he does look young but not hearing makes him look old. He would look younger if he had a hearing aid. 

Dorothy Parker --- 6 years ago -

My thoughts exactly. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

You cant see it! I have to really look to see if Dh is wearing his. A plastic piece smaller than the hook of eyeglasses goes behind the ear. That is the part that controls volume. Or you can chose the model that controls volune automatically. You choose the color from neon colors to black to match your hair, your skin, or in dh's case, his eyeglass frame. From the top of the ear runs a tiny, tiny clear wire. The tiny silicone ear bud goes deep into the ear canal to block out white noise. They are non returnable because they are custom fitted to each person. If it isn't right, they make it right. Technology is amazing. 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

Tell him he's choosing vanity over his family. Why would he rather "look young" than hear what's being said by everyone? Maybe that will put it in perspective for him.

Only if you wanted to completely alienate yourself from him. 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

If people would properly enunciate their words, it wouldn't be an issue. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

If people would properly enunciate their words, it wouldn't be an issue.


That is not true. There is loss of ability to hear sound. It is Hearing LOSS. There are sounds no matter how well you say them that DH simply cannot hear. Now, being a grown adult who has experienced good hearing before now, he can concentrate on the context to make what he *thinks* he heard fit in the conversation.Of oftentimes, he guesses wrong and you can certainly tell by his response. 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

context to make what he *thinks* he heard fit in the conversation.Of oftentimes, he guesses wrong and you can certainly tell by his response.

yes, that happens. It sounds like my wife says she's going to Dillards to get trucks because they are goats. 

Dorothy Parker --- 6 years ago -

He's alienating himself by choosing to look good over hearing his grandchildren. He shouldn't be offended by his child's sincere honesty and offer to help him. If he is, it's probably better he isn't involved in the conversation and sits in silence alone. 

mutton --- 6 years ago -

Emp, get over it. Hearing issues have nothing to do with enunciation, sorry friend... 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

Emp, get over it. Hearing issues have nothing to do with enunciation, sorry friend...

humph 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

It sounds like my wife says she's going to Dillards to get trucks because they are goats.?

Dad is that you????? Do you not live around Kingwood? I would swear you are my dad but he lives at least 5 hours away. He hears the same kind of stuff you hear your wife say. Have you thought about getting a hearing aid? I think it would make your wife happy. Do it for your family, even if you do not want to do it for yourself. 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

its a giant conspiracy. 

AwesomeTattooedDragon --- 6 years ago -

enunciation actually makes it easier to hear- my dad would ask me to repeat things carefully, and that helped- as for choosing vanity over family, that's silly- a person can choose to do whatever makes them comfortable, without being judged for it, IMO- 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

NO, ADT, it's just that dad gave you the attention he needed to focus on the context. He couldn't *hear* any better just because you speak clearly. It is physically impossible.

I was told that DH didn't tune me out while say, watching TV or other. It was just that he had to focus really hard to understand what was being said on TV and he was concentrating. When you are focused, you relate through context rather than the ability to actually hear. You miss out on a lot of things all around you when you can't hear. There is no such thing as listening and multitasking when you have hearing loss. Though I think I would rather lose my hearing than my eyesight. 

FANCY PANTS --- 6 years ago -

I would rather lose my hearing than my eyesight.?

I have to agree, but either would be awful. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

I know some sign language and can almost read lips as long as I know the context. But of course, being that prepared will mean I will go blind before I go deaf. 

Gigix4 --- 6 years ago -

Though I think I would rather lose my hearing than my eyesight.

Me too! But prefer to not lose either one but as aging progresses, I find that both are inevitable. Just walking around with arthritis in both knees and hip are something else to deal with.

I'm about to join the group of little ol' people using the electric cart at Walmart! Please be courteous to us. :) 

RushJunkie --- 6 years ago -

Maybe he knows what they cost....they are terribly expensive .. 

TinktheSprite --- 6 years ago -

Does Medicare Cover Hearing Aids? Our private insurance covered 90%. 

AwesomeTattooedDragon --- 6 years ago -

Gigi, the day you use an electric cart, hell will freeze over! 

Gigix4 --- 6 years ago -

***smile***

Might be a really cold winter. LOL 

Emperor of Kingwood --- 6 years ago -

Better clearer enunciation of words is free. No hearing aide required. 

whatchamacallit --- 6 years ago -

Christmas is coming, parents are coming, I will try to get my Dad to consider a hearing aid, again. Wish me luck! 

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