Does anyone else have to deal with this?

My male co-workers and a female all say comments that have now made me want to quit my job. When I first started here last January it wasn't as bad, but now that I have had breast augmentation the comments have gotten way out of control.

What can I do? 

Tell them to shut up? 

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I wouldn't be on here if I hadn't already done that perfection. 

Once you have talked to them then go to HR. They are creating a hostile work environment.

Are they peers or do they have authority over you? 

We are a small company so no HR department and it's kindof hard when it's your boss and peers doing it. 

That's why I want to quit..... 

Nah. Document it. Get a recorder and tape it. Then file harassment officially. Support your claim without question and win in court. 

Jenny, I'm so sorry they are doing that to you. I hate when people assume a breast augmentation means you want attention. Some people can't wrap their stupid brains around "I did it for me" idea. As a fellow augmented lady, I really know where you are coming from. The only way I've found to solve it is getting flat out mean. Let them have it nine ways from Sunday in a professional way. 

Mods didn't let me post any of the sayings...lol 

basically my boss says stuff involving sexual favors and coworkers comment on my body 

to make it worse, I am married and my husband doesn't take all of this too well. 

And Loki I agree with you. 

I think the only way it will get resolved is when I find another job.... 

Don't let them get away with it. Document it, maybe even record the harassment with your phone and then see a lawyer. You have a case so punch them in the -deleted-, judicially speaking.

For the record, congrats on your sweet new fun bags! 

I guess you could record them, then tell them, play it for them and let them listen to themselves? Keep the recording as insurance? 

I'm not the type for blackmailing or court....it will come back to me wether I was right, it won't matter. 

I have just been sending out my CV to head hunters and hopefully will find something soon. 

I was just wondering if any of you guys had to deal with this and had non court solutions.... 

Background check...... Lol. She is not in the wrong. 

You have a case so punch them in the dick, judicially speaking.


See now....I would just do it physically....and have in the past.

For years.....I was the only female in the entire fire station. I was cool with it. Most of the guys got to know me and know I was cool with most stuff, but just don't cross the line. It was like living in a dorm.....ugh! Most of the guys were great, and most of them were protective like a big brother of me.

Well, one JackA didn't get the point. He kept crossing the line, and I told him multiple times to stop. I could foresee that being the only girl....making a SH complaint would not have gone over very well.....

His harrassment involved touching me though, and that's where I draw the line...with any of them. I warned him that if he ever did it agin that I was going to kick his ball sac up around his ear lobe.......he did it again the very next shift. I kicked him so GD hard that he vomited.....and had to go home. It was a win-win for me cause, he finally got the point....and I got to work his overtime shift! Yea me! :) 

I was just wondering if any of you guys had to deal with this and had non court solutions.

Nope. Most places I worked for had an HR or at least a corporate office with a harassment 800 number we could always call. 

Laurabeth- that is awesome....however, I am not the only girl and she is also the one saying stuff. It hasn't gotten physical but it's degrading. 

however, I am not the only girl and she is also the one saying stuff.


Wow.....so she's condoning it to seem like "the cool" chick in the office? :(

I'm sorry, have you had a conversation with each one of them individually and explained that it is inappropriate and will not be tolerated. Or do you feel that would be the end of your job if you did?

What line of work are you looking for? 

I have said to them that I don't like when they say stuff like that, but yes I do believe it would cost me my job if I made a huge deal about it.

I currently am an office manager. I finish school next year for my accounting degree so I really like the experience of what I do now. 

Lawsuits show party info not details. One would have to write in requesting open record info. That's a lot of work 

Lawsuits show party info not details.


Civil lawsuits? Not true....I can look up court records in civil suits from the HC Courts records website, and read full court docs including case information. Some criminal ones are even a matter of public record. That's why It's called public records.......

Would sexual harrassment cases be any different? 

Family docs are protected though....as they should be. 

I def would get my resume out and start looking. Then once you have had several interviews and possibly a new job lined up tell them why you are quitting. Tell them you dont like the way they are treating you at all. Then call the attorney general office to get whom to talk to the EEOC office will also take your complaint.

Being in the trucking industry I put up with this for 16 year. So I do know how you feel 

Sexual Harrassment at work....

It's better than sexual harassment at home. 

EPW- I welcome that at home....lol as long as it's from my hubby! 

It's really sad Jenny that things have evolved to this, that you have to make a choice of pursuing something that should not be allowed to happen vs. keeping your job. Loki is right, this will follow you everywhere you go and it's not positive, the whole thing is just so wrong.

Maybe your best bet is just to look for another job and leave ASAP when you get one..But they should be taken to task for their behavior. 

Jennygirl - have you tried looking for accounting jobs/intern downtown? I work for a big law firm downtown and we hire on interns and if it's a fit, after they get their degree they are hired as juniors. Look into the law firms downtown.
Sorry you are going through this. It is very unfair for you and I can understand your husbands issues with it. I know my husband would of gone done there by now and kicked some booty and I would be unemployed! :-) I can't imagine the girl condoning this but then again, I'm sure she's jealous. Your boss sounds like a very unprofessional jerk. Get out of there. Life is too short to be miserable at work! 

My goal in accounting is oil & gas industry. I have my associates in business and transfered to accounting. I'm not sure how to go about looking for law firms in that area, any suggestions? 

And the other girl just says, "what did you expect when you got boobs....you wanted this attention." Why can't it be because "I" wanted them....? 

You need to protect yourself in case they fire you before you find a new job.

You have to do this. Otherwise, you are defenseless when they fire you or make you more miserable for calling them on it. 

You're young and cute and they aren't taking you seriously because they don't think they have to take you seriously. Stand up for yourself now, so that you can stand up for yourself in the future. You can be assertive without losing your job. Next time one of them says something like that, take him aside and say YOU. CAN. NOT. SPEAK. TO. ME. LIKE. THAT. EVER. AGAIN. and walk away. If they fire you, THEN sue them, but more than likely, your tone of voice will get it through to him that you are actually serious, and he will hopefully stop. You are probably going to have to have that talk with all of them, though. Yes, they may end up firing you, but that is the least of your worries. While it is NOT your fault, you are allowing this behavior to continue. Don't let it continue any more. Stand up for yourself, because it is obvious that nobody else will. 

It would be that simple if it was just 1 person, however I work with 8 and 6 of them are the ones I have a problem with....1 of those 6 is my boss! 

Maybe the DH needs to "visit" your work place....? 

I'd be fired immediately....