Interesting article about the decrease of interest in marriage.

What say you?

Marriage interest decrease 

I see no point in marriage. 

Doesn't surprise me, but it is awful. Marriage is the backbone of the family, and the family is the backbone of the nation. Without it, nothing good will be supported, nothing good will stand. 

Although, in their defense, they were asking 21 year olds. I probably felt the same way at 21. 21 year olds aren't usually known for their depth of thought and realizations of their obligations and responsibilities toward society as a whole.

Or at least I wasn't. I was more concerned about the cute guy in the apt next door and what shoes I was going to wear to go dancing--cute vs. comfy. These were pressing issues at 21. 

My sister has been with the same man for 15+ years. They refuse to get married. They have three healthy & happy children. They don't think marriage is worth the cost of a wedding. 

Just a further devolving of America. 

I see no point in marriage.



I feel the same way. The only bennie is the tax break. 

I feel the same way. The only bennie is the tax break.

And the ability to cover your spouse on your insurance. 

I've been with my husband about 15 years, and while we are "happily married" we saw no point in a piece of paper other than for the tax benefits and insurance (it was important enough for us to tie the knot.)

Marriage is a government institution and unfortunately, a necessary evil for many.

They don't think marriage is worth the cost of a wedding.?

One doesn't have to have an expensive wedding in order to be legally married; in addition to the marriage license, I paid a whopping $25 to a family friend who is a judge to marry us. 

Maybe more young people would want to marry if they had more positive role models. When all you hear about is infidelity, lying and hateful spouses that end up in horrible divorce battles, it doesn't make marriage smell too good. 

I think there's a set of values sold to aspiring youths that considered marriage a must for any sort of normal life.

It seemed, in my youth, that's what you did as an adult. Along with that was the idea of monogamy and sacrifice to keep the institution alive.

It's late in life , now, and I'm prone to re-examination and re-evaluation of those values. I'll admit that it's a mixed bag.

Not to decry my decisions in the past, I have no wish to change and I do not regret those marital decisions. They have stood the test of time. "With malice toward none" I've lived a full and interesting life.

In this more modern world, I see less advantages of marriage. Looking at the current divorce rate, it seems that about half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. I don't think people enter into marriage thinking that "if it doesn't work out, I can always get a divorce".

Something must be driving the marriage concept and the consequential divorce rate. Must be an idea or expectation of what marriage is about that is unfulfilled.

For a fact, there are many more opportunities for females in the post WWII workforce, and the educational numbers strongly support the idea that females are more interested in educational accomplishment.

I am, and always have been a women's libber. I strongly support equal opportunity.

Does that mean that I value marriage less? I don't know. I certainly think about it more these days. 

Marriage is a government institution and unfortunately, a necessary evil for many.

Only to people who think of it that way because they don't know the truth.

The leftist ideals as shown on this thread reveal why this country is devolving. 

As long as woman keep turning 30, there will be marriages. 

If you don't plan to have children, it's really something to think about- half of marriages end in divorce- 

There's a bad catch in marriage that most never think of before going down the aisle. You are responsible for whatever actions your partner might do financially. There should be some division on that because I have seen more marriages torn apart by money than any other. If you are about to marry, make sure that you know that person well and know their habits with money and thoughts on the big things. I didn't marry until 28 and only then because we were both very family oriented. Looking back being single wasn't all that bad...LOL 

Marriage was hell on earth for me. It was either get out or face possible death. I chose the out.

That doesn't mean I value marriage any less. I'm fully aware that it was the person, not the institution that caused that.

I do think marriage is a benefit that should be available to all, however. 

I do think marriage is a benefit that should be available to all, however.

It already is under God's definition. 

Lbb, you're so right- especially in a community property state- I think if you've been married more than once, and it hasn't worked out, you might think about not doing it again- 

Awe, Tat, that would take all the mystery and love out of it, right? I'm still married this week, I will think about next week. I'd hate to give up the extended family :) 

oops.. 

The extended family might surprise you, and pick you over him! Lol! 

Only to people who think of it that way because they don't know the truth.

Except for that teeny tiny issue that involves one getting a marriage license. FROM THE STATE. You know, the government.

Legal marriages must have government involvement. Godly ones don't.

Don't be a grumpy sad clown, JL. You can believe anything you want! 

Except for that teeny tiny issue that involves one getting a marriage license. FROM THE STATE. You know, the government.

Just goes to show how clueless you are. God instituted government, and God tells us to follow the laws of the government when they don't conflict with his laws. 

God instituted government, and God tells us to follow the laws of the government when they don't conflict with his laws.  

And the ability to cover your spouse on your insurance.



No need for this if we both work. 

Visitation rights in hospitals often require legally-recognized marriage.

In addition, if a person dies without a will, intestacy laws typically grant the spouse some portion of the decedent's estate. Again, such spouse would have to be recognized as such by the applicable state government. 

Our children live by Example. We have 4 and they all are still committed to the same partner. Just like their parents of 36 years. 

Texas is a really bad state to die without a will- don't wait until you're old to do it- no one knows when they'll go- 

Texas is a really bad state to die without a will

Yes, it is,

Please include a "Living will" and medical power of attorney along with a regular will.

Especially if you're married. 

Man I agree on that Butter and Tatt. I've seen too many bad situations happen because people just fail to get a will done. It is so easy to do.

On marriage, best decision I ever made. There is no substitute in this life for a lifelong soulmate. 

Say what you will about marriage just being a piece of paper, but without it, it is just too easy to walk away. 

Regarding a will etc, you can use LegalZoom and it's cheap- they do all three documents, and they'll walk you through it on the phone, while you're on line- 

Why buy the cow when you only want some milk?" 

Sheddy, it's easy to walk away without one too. 

It's pointless to get married when most people lack morals and self respect.

Why bother having expectations of faithfulness (and I'm not just talking about sexual faithfulness) when so few have honor.

Our society is too full of the selfish and the dishonest. Most are just out for themselves with no concern for others. Love means nothing to some people. No point in a faux marriage. 

I wish as much emphasis, help and money was directed at people on the brink of divorce as has been directed at the issue of gay marriage. I believe for society and especially when children are involved staying or becoming HAPPILY married is best. OTOH divorce might be good for lawyers and the entertainment industry (bars, restaurants etc). 

Christine, it would be wonderful if people were as concerned with divorce as they were gay marriage.
That is one of the issues that bothers so many - the complete and total hypocrisy of Christians who focus on gay marriage but give divorce a pass. 

I wish as much emphasis, help and money was directed at people on the brink of divorce as has been directed at the issue of gay marriage

Excellent comment. Marriage is a gift with the right woman and torture with the wrong one. I believe the right woman is a gift from God to be cared for and cherished. 

"That is one of the issues that bothers so many - the complete and total hypocrisy of Christians who focus on gay marriage but give divorce a pass"




Who in Christianity gives divorce a pass?? Divorce is not widely accepted in Christianity at all. And legions probably stay in basically bad marriages bc the fall out from divorce is very real and painful and negative and frowned upon by the church. Not accepted at all. It just still happens. 

Who in Christianity gives divorce a pass??

Nobody does. It was the typical Christian bashing statement made from ignorance.