She discovered he was online at night being Viscious to people and bullying, name calling and degrading them. When she confronted him, he said it's a stress reliever and he wasn't going to stop. He left her over it.
What would you do if you found out someone you were in a relationship with, was a Viscious troll by nite and normal acting person by day?? Would you leave? Demand it stop? Which person is the real one??
"In a post called "I just discovered my husband of six years is a Reddit troll. I'm pregnant," posted to Reddit's r/relationship forum, user whatanasssss posted a troubling story about how she stumbled onto her husband's secret life online.
He left the browser open on our laptop after he went to work this morning. I go to work after, so I usually hop on and do my own things on my real account....I was disgusted at what I found. My husband is a troll. A really nasty troll. He leaves horribly mean comments to all kinds of people. They're filled with racist slurs, awful insults, he tears into fat people, ugly people, etc. He loves to troll around places like /r/progresspics to discourage people who are trying to lose weight. etc. He's sent PMs to people to call them names, calls women who post on /r/gonewild sluts and whores etc. I was horrified. Completely horrified. She does not give his user name on Reddit, but according to her, his behavior doesn't stop with Reddit. He apparently trolls Tumblr telling young women to kill themselves.
It made me wonder what else he did on the internet, so I looked at the browser history to find him also harassing teenagers on tumblr. Telling them to kill themselves, calling cute girls ugly and fat and stupid, etc. It horrified me to think this was the man who could be raising our daughter with me in a few months. She posted an update later, after she confronted him about what she discovered.
I asked him, flat out, if he was harassing and bullying people online. He said yes, and immediately withdrew. After telling him that I needed to know why really why, not just "I don't know", he said he needed time to think about it.
When he finally gave me his answer, I was disappointed. He said he trolled/bullied people because it was an outlet for him to relieve stress. He said he didn't view the people as real, or what he was doing as anything other than a joke, and if it hurt feelings, "those people have bigger problems and it's not my fault." We all know that we're living in an age where it's easy to post something online and have a lot of well-meaning people assume that it's real. I know this could very well be an elaborate hoax. But for the sake of argument, let's assume this is real.
Here's the thingthis Reddit post might be fake, but I guarantee you that there are tons and tons of trolls doing exactly what she described her husband doing, who probably have wives, girlfriends and children who have no idea they're sitting online in the middle of the night stalking people on social media and telling them to commit suicide. She's pregnant and she just discovered her husband aka the father-to-be of her child is telling women online to kill themselves. His comments to her are extremely telling about the kind of person who engages in the trolling many of us have come to know in these parts. He dehumanizes women and the other people he trolls online to the point that he doesn't even see them as "real.""
People who cannot speak as themselves online, Who are dishonest online by pretending to be someone they are not, who act out online, who say things online that they would never say in person have some really, really deep seeded issues. "The pen is mightier than the sword." You can die by your words. In this case a marriage died by his words.
If you look at Fuzz's comment, you have the perfect example of what trolls do. Random, rude, attack comments or pot stirring, to stir up trouble or get a rise. He's right on time so we will use him as a timely example. Please remember that next time he starts in about Canada. He knows it will incite real drama on here and he knows we have many veterans as well.
Definition of a troll: Lifewire: " the deliberate act of making random unsolicited and/or controversial comments with the intent to provoke an emotional reaction from unsuspecting readers"
It's both sad and cowardly to bully someone on line,
I would tend to agree if there were a universally accepted definition of bully. Bully; like hater, racist, sexist, xenophobe, etc., has come to mean anything a person wants it to mean in their own context. Therefore, it has no meaning.
They did a study in Canada and this is what they found out about people who are trolls:
The Guardian- "But a new study by Erin Buckels and colleagues at University of Manitoba in Canada wanted to figure out who, exactly, these trolls are. Using Amazons Mechanical Turk website, internet users (mostly male, with an average age of 29 years) answered survey questions designed to assess whats called the Dark Tetrad of personality. This tetrad includes narcissism (egocentrism and preoccupation with prestige), Machiavellianism (tendency to deceive and manipulate), psychopathy (lack of empathy and inhibition), and sadism (pleasure of inflicting pain or humiliation on others).
Buckels and colleagues asked about the participants internet behavior, including how frequently they comment on blogs and forums. They also gauged how the subjects commented, asking whether they preferred debating, chatting, making friends, or trolling. Of the 418 participants, 59% said that they actively comment on websites. Among those, nearly a tenth admitted that their favorite activity was trolling other users.
Scores on the Dark Tetrad personality test revealed that trolls are, by far, more likely to have narcissistic, Machiavellian, psychopathic, and sadistic personality traits. Okay, so thats not so surprising. But Buckels and colleagues wanted to take it a step further: how much enjoyment are these trolls getting from their online shenanigans? The researchers constructed their own Global Assessment of Internet Trolling (GAIT), which asked such questions as I have sent people to shock websites for the lulz and The more beautiful and pure a thing is, the more satisfying it is to corrupt. (Sadly, some people indeed answered these questions with a yes). "
I think they chose trolling as their life, hence they have no normal life.
When you focus on something, it's going to have an effect on your brain and heart, good or bad. These people have no empathy for others and don't care. They love attention and don't care how they get it, or who gets in the way.
What a jerk! This reminds me of something I discovered back when I worked in a very male dominated industry. The guys that were the biggest aholes at work were always the most whipped by their wife. Over and over it it turned out to be true. You could see the difference as soon as their woman showed up, like a switch flipped! I guess they were taking out their frustrations on us at work because they knew that at home there would be consequences like loss of bedroom privileges, etc.
Don't get me wrong, I prefer working with men as they are usually easier to read and more straight forward than women but some of them had real issues.
Why do men put up with that. Its control. Men who put up with that threat are stupid. All a wife gets is first right of refusal.Â
Not sure why but most do. Sex shouldn't be used as a way to control anyone. However, there is a big difference in not wanting to have sex because you are not getting along and holding out in order to get your way or to try to make the other person suffer!
So the reason why some men are trolls is bc their wives don?t give them sex?? That?s what you?re saying. I should have known it would be the fault of someone other than the actual person doing it.
Wow, that's not at all what I said.
We are all responsible for our own actions.
Women who withhold sex in order to manipulate are being mean and spiteful and men that take out their frustrations, whatever they may be, on their co-workers are are being jerks and all still responsible for their own actions or reactions.