It reads like an over simplified description of male behavior and what it is to be a man in our society. It is much more complex than portrayed in the article.
We don't get up every morning and lust after everything we see. The vast majority of us get up every day and do what is necessary to take care of our families. Do we look at women that we think are attractive? Of course we do. Do we look at your body parts? yes, of course. If you didn't look attractive to us we would have no desire to procreate.
Do we seek some level of power? Of course we do. The reason is that power usually equates to greater resources that we spend on our families. Power and resources are how we are judged as men by women and society in general.
Women will often say they want a "real relationship". Whos definition of a real relationship?
We don't get up every morning and plan how to subjugate a woman.
Most men don't "plan" to. When Matt Lauer had that device put in that locks his door from his desk, what was that for? Was it planned??
But I think it's time we go into it realizing the dynamic of power is what it is. Power is corrupting to anyone and everyone unless you hold yourself to some standard you are committed to. Lust is normal but it needs to be put within boundaries like everything else. Lust AND power has proven to be an issue we can't ignore.
How is it our fault that some women are hott and dress so SEXY!?
Im not very good at knowing if people are joking or not, but since I know you mostly post proTrump pictures instead of words and discussion, I think you might be joking.
But if you are serious, you are missing the point. Instinct and hormones are not relevant to this topic. Its about the behavior and impulse control.
I also think the author of this article is missing the point. The issue is not just a Truth About Men issue. Thats a clickbait way to define the issue and the problem. That makes the author seem unserious about the most important issue. The bigger issue is about how traditional gender roles are changing. Some people resist it. Some people push for it. But like it or not male and female gender roles are changing. People have to respect each other. People who disrespect and violate other people can and should lose their jobs and careers over it.
Sdanielmcev 4 hours ago - edit - quote - put user in the ice box - put user in the ice box and remove recent comments - hide comments Strange thing about this is, women usually go for the the guys that will never respect them.. "
Funny, that's what the poster Loki use to say. He was always whining about unrequited love, women and writing sad poetry. He had a TON of screen names and obliterated and kept changing constantly....funny that.
Saying this issue of sexual harassment, assaulting women, drugging them and/or groping them and pressuring them in the workplace is about respect is like saying nuclear war is about having a good breakfast before you push the button.
Respect is for normal healthy relationships. This is about abuse of POWER.
Funny, that's what the poster Loki use to say. He was always whining about unrequited love, women and writing sad poetry. He had a TON of screen names and obliterated and kept changing constantly....funny that. Who's Loki? Your paranoia is getting the Better of you. And, you, like most liberals do, avoided my point. Humans, like most animals, learn by example. Aspiring to some utopian ideal is nice, but mother nature is a powerful force, and you'll lose any time you go up against her.
Strange thing about this is, women usually go for the the guys that will never respect them..
Women in their 20s seem more interested in guys who respect them than you would think, if all you were going by was how they are portrayed on tv. Tv portrayals are misleading. I think they do that to get the male viewer to pull for certain characters that are not getting attention from the female characters.
Back in high school, I was interested in girls out of my league. I had similar thoughts as you. But in college? Things flipped. Girls are definitely interested in guys who respect them. If you want to see for yourself what Im talking about, go to any college hangout and people watch.
Emperor of Kingwood --- 3 hours ago - edit - quote - put user in the ice box - put user in the ice box and remove recent comments - hide comments The real problem which happens much more often is men having to defend themselves from false allegations in the work place. "
That's highly unlikely since this about POWER, that's a fact that can't be denied. And since women rarely have that kind of power, it's not likely. That's not to say false allegations don't happen, of course they do. But look at all the men who have been caught and admitted it? They were ALL taking advantage of their POWER.. And you know what they say about cockroaches...when you see one, there's another 100 you don't see.
That's highly unlikely since this about POWER, that's a fact that can't be denied. And since women rarely have that kind of power, it's not likely. That's not to say false allegations don't happen, of course they do. But look at all the men who have been caught and admitted it?
Your kidding right? Women use the false allegations in an attempt to level the power playing field. Are you telling me that what I have witnessed and been party to literally every year for 35 years isn't happening? You see several very high profile things where men have abused power and you extrapolate that to every man in a power over people position. What I'm telling you is that the extrapolation isn't true. What is true is exactly what I have witnessed and experienced for 35 years.
I've personally endured harassment, starting at the teen age level. Are you saying what I've experienced isn't real?
I never once said every man, or every powerfull man. I said false allegations happen. But those situations pale in comparison to the abuse of power women are likely to experience simply bc it's men who usually HAVE the power.I have in fact, said before that if it were women always in power they would do it too.
sdanielmcev --- 19 hours ago - edit - quote - put user in the ice box - put user in the ice box and remove recent comments - hide comments Women lust after men and power same as any one. It'd be better to see this book co-written from the same perspective by a woman. About women.
Wanting power or seeking it, or even finding it attractive is not the same as HAVING it. Your comment makes no sense since women don't have the power to be able to abuse others with it. Again, it's time to accept the truth that some men abuse their power in the workplace. Denying it ain't gonna help anything and you men who try to say that women are the problem are lying to yourself. And that never works, the universe sees to that.
Again, it's time to accept the truth that some men abuse their power in the workplace
There's no doubt about that. Seen it all too often. It's a case of bad leadership. They abuse others in many ways such as; not empowering people, creating a hostile work environment; being generally unfair and capricious and not least of all vengeful. True leaders are vastly different.
My experience with this is exactly the opposite. I've seem more false allegations that the real thing
What field are you in that led to you being exposed to all these false allegations? If you dont want to answer that, do you think false allegations are unique to your field, or equally common among all occupations?
Shes just not seeing that women who make these false allegations are also abusing their power. She seems too focused on making it about men. Even chose an article that also tries to make it a gender issue. Both genders are using the power they have to exploit circumstances for personal gain. That is very obvious to most reasonable thinking people.
Are you surprised that she is handicapped by her cognitive distortions that cause her view abuse of power in the obviously messed up way she does? Youre not going to get far in this debate. She has her own demons that keep her comfortable within her own cognitive distortions. We see obvious paranoia. She rejects reason and logic because it makes her uncomfortable to face her own demons. She sees ghosts and she likes it that way. What we see is that constant distrust and suspiciousness of others.
You might already know this from what you learned in your occupation, but people not close to her are not going to change her. She has to want to change, and it often takes close friends or family to make that happen.
Yes. I read that. As stated earlier, I believe most of those men are guilty of what was alleged and deserved to lose their jobs and careers. In what way do you think posting it helps me understand something that you think I donÂt understand?
The TOPIC is the book, and what Franklin Thinks is an issue men have with lust. The sexual harassment came in bc obviously there is a real problem WITH LUST and powerful people. I never said there werent false allegations made. But lets cut the crap and be honest. There isnt nearly the magnitude of that vs. all the harassment, abuse, sex trafficking, rape and assaults that are made against women.
Wake up. Wise up. Denying it on the internet doesnt make it false.