I heard someone say today that women's communication style is listen and talk about what she heard. A man's is watch what she does and take some kind of action.

What do you think? 

Not sure if that is the case, but I do know that almost all women want to talk it out. Problem being that the talking goes on so long that it often times becomes unproductive and painfully redundant. On the other hand, most men NEVER really want to talk it out. And if they say they do you are still very lucky just to get a grunt in agreement or disagreement out of them most of the time, which is also very unproductive and annoying as hell. 

That about spells it out! lol 

If I wanna talk about my feelings, I'll watch the Three Stooges. 

I think women also want to talk more about how they feel. When men try to understand that, they get frustrated.

Here’s a typical conversation between my parents:

Mom: Ugh, my mother is such a b!+ch!
Dad: What happened?
Mom: She is just so mean.
Dad: Who was she mean to?
Mom: Just everybody!
Dad: About what?
Mom: Everything!
Dad: You haven’t really told me anything that I can help you with (stands up to walk off)

And then she starts to provide details. It’s like she needs to get a bunch of reaction statements out and needs to say them out loud. He just wants to help but needs useful information to know how to respond. 

She dosent need him to do anything, she needed someone to LISTEN and offer support. A good majority of the time, no one can do anything anyway when people are venting. Women just want someone to care, or pretend they do, or be interested In the issue at hand. 

Is that a result of nature or nurture? 

Women just want someone to care, or pretend they do, or be interested In the issue at hand.

Herein lies a bit of an issue. The way men show we care is to solve your problems for you. We show we care by trying to provide you with a life of comfort. We are more action oriented than rhetoric because we often feel talking doesn't actually solve anything. 

Strong, independent, adult women do not want, nor need men to solve our problems, or provide us with a life of comfort.

Only weak, insecure women need that. 

Everyone needs their significant other to care and to be there for them. It is my pleasure to help my husband when he needs it and vice-versa. Isn't comfort and understanding a BIG part of what all people are looking for in a relationship?
There is nothing weak about that. 

Strong, independent, adult women do not want, nor need men to solve our problems, or provide us with a life of comfort.

Only weak, insecure women need that.

The mantra of the third wave feminist movement. 

In the beginning women had to be supported by their husbands as I stated earlier bc most were SAHM?s, necessity. Now, most women work and so they both contribute financially although the husband likely makes more. We need each other for the things that make a relationship worthwhile, companionship and someone to enjoy and enrich your life. All the game playing ruins what was worthwhile to begin with. Men feel being empathetic and a good listener is weak. And it?s not nor will it ever be. But to BE that threatens their status among other men and likely makes them uncomfortable imo. So they digress.. and I think they LIKED that women needed them to survive and it?s no longer the case and that ace is gone, so is that power. 

Men feel being empathetic and a good listener is weak. And it?s not nor will it ever be. But to BE that threatens their status among other men and likely makes them uncomfortable imo. So they digress.. and I think they LIKED that women needed them to survive and it?s no longer the case and that ace is gone, so is that power.

Its all the fault of those evil awful men isn't it. 

Men feel being empathetic and a good listener is weak


No. The constant drone of whining is what turns me off. 

Listen to Bill Burr rant about women. 

Did I mention I'm happily single? 

Men feel being empathetic and a good listener is weak

I am not a fan of generalizing, but this is one of the most common criticisms that older generation men have about millennials. 

But to BE that threatens their status among other men and likely makes them uncomfortable imo. So they digress.. and I think they LIKED that women needed them to survive and it?s no longer the case and that ace is gone, so is that power. 

I do not mean to put words in your mouth, but that sounds like you are saying men of a certain older generation are the original entitled generation? 

Men feel being empathetic and a good listener is weak


That's totally untrue. Its about how we show empathy. Men show it differently that do women, therefore if a man doesn't show empathy as a woman does it must mean he isn't empathetic, right?

As for listening, again its about how we listen. Men tend to listen more for data and actionable information than words that to men aren't helpful to the situation. Therefore, if men don't listen in the same manner as a woman it must mean the flaw is with men, right? 

so is that power.

It was never about power. It was and still should be about team work. Each person on the team applied the skills that they're best at for the good of the team with the teams mission of raising healthy offspring. 

I?m not saying the power thing was intentional, just that it DID happen that way that women had no where near an equal status to men. So yep, there was power there, naturally occurring power. Women couldn?t even vote for Gods sake. Men are different from women for many reasons. It?s not bad. But in this issue of communication, they DONT talk as much in general about ?feelings?, it?s not generational, women talk too much a lot of the time. Not generational either, gender issue too? Of course this doesn?t apply to every single person. But in general it?s well known there is a diff in communication styles that appears to be at odds with solving problems. 

diff in communication styles that appears to be at odds with solving problems.

Not necessarily. It likely depends on the situation. Women problem solve with both sides of the brain simultaneously. Men do not. What this causes is women to view all solutions and inputs like other peoples feelings.

Men typically problem solve with only one side of the brain at a time. Anthropologically, this developed because of the often need for quick surgical strike type of actions required to protect the female and the offspring.

Men's bodies are built for physical encounters, again for the protection for the female and offspring. This does translate to some form of power that I'm sure has been misused by males.

Power to control the behaviors of another person evolved by men too. I believe primarily through the advent of the church. Don't get me wrong, I'm Christian, but I'm not a huge supporter of the early churches (or present day churches) and their need to control the population, especially women.

So why would men (priests turned politician) want to control womens behavior? Easy, if you control women, you control men. 

"If you control women, you control men."


I really don't see how. Think of ALL the wars, in every part of the globe, men fighting for power. Women had ZERO input.

They more than likely desire control to get some, on some level. That's why we have so much rape, sexual harassment and physical abuse..power for selfish gain. 

"If you control women, you control men."


I really don't see how.

Helen of Troy. 

Think of ALL the wars, in every part of the globe, men fighting for power. Women had ZERO input.
Like Indira Ghandi, Queen Amina(sp?)Golda Meir, Catherine 1, Queen Anne? 

OH yes, if it somehow makes you feel better to compare isolated and uncommon occurrences with the NORM. Smh. Weak 

Nice try, saggy. History isn't your strong point. 

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. 

And reality isn't yours. Neither is honesty. But delusion is your specialty! 

"If you control women, you control men."

I really don't see how.

Its about influence. Power is not limited to direct line power or organizational authority. The most effective is influence.

Jesus had no organization authority or power at all yet his influence continues to guide lives today.

Women used to be masters at the use of influential power, but for some reason no longer care to use that valuable. skill.

Influential power is more difficult but its also more sustainable that organizational authority. 

OBJECTIVE.

NOT too frequently do they clearly state their OBJECTIVE.

WOMEN - WHAT IS YOUR OBJECTIVE?

Without an objective

there is no reason to listen to the droning on about something probably far less important than the game or the news or .....

peace and quiet. 

Men and women are supposed to be different.link title 

"There is no reason to listen."



Point proven. 

Did you hear something?

;-) 

Lol!!! No worries, I?m use to it. :) 

There's one glaring difference. Women have higher pitch voices than men. 

My dad used to turn off his hearing aids! LOL! 

What? 

Did you turn off your hearing aids?? lol!