spending $1000.00 on a purchase? 

No, why would I? 

Yes I would. I think it should be discussed and that goes both ways. 

That depends on how much free spending money you have on hand at any given time.

Does it affect paying bills, future plans, retirement, college savings, etc? 

I dont get concerned about what my wife spends either. 

It depends on the income if it is worth discussing. In some situations,that amount of money is pocket change.

But I think a couple should have some sort of agreement on how money decisions are made before it ever comes up. It can be changed and reevaluated when income goes up or down. 

What Polly said- 

Unless it was a gift for my spouse that I knew he really wanted, I would tell him. 

I agree Saga, goes both ways. I look at it as a courtesy in a marriage to talk to your spouse first. And, this is a $1000.00 on a hobby. WIP it definitely takes from bill money, future plans, retirement, college savings, etc. 

We don't care what the other one spends. After the toys my husband has bought the last two years, I don't think he could say anything. Lol. He knows he doesn't have to worry about me, I'm too tight!!!! 

She has her money, I have mine. Its none of my business how she spends her money. 

Unless its food or a gift for my hubby we discuss everything over $200.00. We live on a budget that we both control. We talk about everything. It's what makes our 15 year marriage work. No secrets. 

Bob, I was curious about that too. How do single income households handle their money? Does the one who doesn't work outside of the home receive an allowance? Can large purchases be justified by the one who earns the "paycheck"? 

I'm sorry Kinz, that's tough. Does he/she realize the need for a budget from here out?

We are single income. The hubs doesn't have a set spending limit for me, but I tell him about anything over $100 just as a courtesy, and big purchases are saved for a time that we both agree it's needed. 

My wife works occasionally and earns her own money. However, she also gets a certain amount of money from me every month in addition to her crecit cards paid by me. I dont care what she spends it on. 

For sure, WIP. Spending that amount of money without consulting your spouse, feels selfish and disrespectful to the marriage. I feel as though it's putting the needs of one person ahead of the needs of the families. Does that make sense? 

We combine our paychecks. No one gets an allowance. We just talk about everything. 

Well, speaking for the working class here. Yes, we discuss these things and thankfully agree for the most part. 

I do all the major purchasing in our home. He probably wouldn't hear me if I said I was spending X on X. He knows I am much more conservative with money than he is and we have totally separate accounts. It would be him that would spend a grand and then me raise my eyebrows. 

We actually do discuss large purchases in terms of, do we want it, when do we want it, things like that. We have together determined not to do or buy something once we analyze all the aspects of it. 

we have totally separate accounts

We do too and I like it that way. 

Dh is the bread winner- I do the budget and pay the bills. 1,000 is a lot of money to us and neither of us would spend such a sum without a discussion. Even with his year end bonus we decide how the money shall be spent. I present the next year's budget in Dec- he decides how much will go into 401k based on the budget I set for the new year. The bonus gets divided up among paying off balances, house projects and we try to set aside something for each of us to spend as we like- usually we combine it and spend it on something we both want. 

Bob, that's how I feel it should be in a marriage. To me, it shows you value your spouse. It's being considerate. Love My Creator, $200.00 seems like a fair limit to me. As much as I feel disrespected and under valued, I feel betrayed too. With that being said, I also try to be careful to ensure I'm not over reacting too. Thank you to all those that have commented and shared thus far. :) 

To me, it shows you value your spouse. It's being considerate

Thats how I see it. 

Thats how I see it.

:) 

"I was curious about that too. How do single income households handle their money? Does the one who doesn't work outside of the home receive an allowance? "


That's tricky imo, bc, they work too but don't get a paycheck. They should have no less say bc of it. If you do the homemaker job right, you save the household money as well as many other benefits. But, no pay check. 

That's tricky imo, bc, they work too but don't get a paycheck. They should have no less say bc of it. If you do the homemaker job right, you save the household money as well as many other benefits. But, no pay check.?

Team work. 

Team work




Yes, it is. But one isn't getting monetary compensation so some people think they are worth less when it comes to money. 

Would you consult with your spouse prior to spending $1000.00

Depends on what is was for.

A laptop, yeah.

A hooker, no. 

A hooker, no.?

Now that right there was funny. 

We are a single income household. My wife takes care of the bills - I'd ask her before I spent $1000 dollars.

She has full access to the bank account to spend as she sees fit. She watches my spending rather than the other way around. 

My spouse feels because he is the one earning monetary compensation, it's "his" money to spend how he chooses. Words out of his own mouth. 

My spouse feels because he is the one earning monetary compensation, it's "his" money to spend how he chooses. Words out of his own mouth.?

You could consider going on strike. 

Considering it, Fisher. 

He's been caught twice hiding money. What bothers me more than the spending of the money, is the seemingly lack of conscience he has hiding it. :( 

We talk about everything except once he was asleep and I bought two dogs ($3500) without consulting him. It was one of those deals where I was in the right place at the right time and needed to make a decision. He didn't really care about the money but was slightly miffed I didn't at least consult. I made it up to him later and he's probably forgotten about it all by now. It's not something I plan to do in the future. Unless I find myself in the right place at the right time again LOL 

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He's been caught twice hiding money. What bothers me more than the spending of the money, is the seemingly lack of conscience he has hiding it. :(?



Hiding money is a red flag, possibly signaling other deceitful practices, be careful and alert. Do you know where the money went those times? Is he possibly cheating or building an escape nest egg with divorce in mind? Could he have a drug or gambling problem? If you caught him three times, how many did you miss? 

Yeah I agree. Hiding money is totally different than just not asking before you spend. Have you talked about seeing a counselor? I'd be pretty worried if my spouse was hiding anything. 

Hiding money is a red flag, possibly signaling other deceitful practices, be careful and alert. Do you know where the money went those times? Is he possibly cheating or building an escape nest egg with divorce in mind? Could he have a drug or gambling problem?

No drug or gambling problem. I refer to it as only child syndrome. He grew up getting anything he wanted. To this day, his parents don't tell him no. He has several toys and expensive hobbies. I feel like he hides money because he simply "wants" an item that he knows he can't justify to me. 

You have every right to be concerned.