You know how they say "familiarity breeds contempt" to try and help describe what happens to romantic relationships and why so many fail....well assuming that's true, why is the opposite true of friendships? It seems the more you know and learn and experience, the deeper the connection goes and the deeper the bond. Why doesn't that work for romance and dating??
I find that men have a hard time being good friends with a woman. Gay men seem to have an easier time with it. I have had a few male friends that feel badly that I am married so they can't be my friend. I think it's the men. They think about relationships/friendships in one way only.
Instinct, meaning what? That men are driven to plant their "seed" in every female to the point they just want every woman they see? And that women just want to have babies?
I don't believe that works for now. We have evolved past that. We don't live in caves. People chose when and where they want to reproduce. Women DO have a natural desire to have a family but they are waiting longer and longer bc they work to support themselves now. Women can actually work, get their own credit cards, vote and get educated. Some just don't even want kids. Men are still the protecting force in a family, and family is still the core of our society. But it's ALL about choice now, not our biological " urges" driving us around to reproduce.
Men think women are "crazy" bc they are so out of touch, distant, secretive and manipulative, you can't approach one except if you wanna drop your drawers bc that's what they understand. LOL
Sharti, this topic is about relationships. Issues between men and women are likely to come up. And IN that context, both are vulnerable to each other, are acutely effected BY each other and we all are a slave to what we experience being the driving force behind attitude. To try and say women blame men for ALL their problems is the epitome of a sweeping generalization.
No, they don't. But when it comes to relational failures, it's pretty common for a couple to be hurt and then blame the one who hurt them. Men do want to hold all the power and that's their biggest downfall. Bc that's how their world works. That's how our society started out and how it is today. Women want to settle down, the two don't always jive.
Not the ones in my life, but everywhere else. It's everywhere. Did you not hear the President say to just grab women by the 😺..?? And not see the guys with him agreed and cheered him on? You don't read about the violent sexual assault rates? The abuse in relationships? What's happening in colleges now? Men have lost their way in many areas of life. They are in charge tho so they look the other way..
.... Men do want to hold all the power and that's their biggest downfall. Bc that's how their world works. That's how our society started out and how it is today. Women want to settle down, the two don't always jive.
Men do want to hold all the power and that's their biggest downfall.
I disagree that men want to hold all the power. Women have now and have always had the ultimate power. When women wanted to give up their power and compete with men on their description of equal footing is when things went wrong.
Emp, the only way I can see women holding any power is perhaps behind the scenes, using sex as a control mechanism. But using that logic, we just go back to men thinking of women as sex objects. Women have been 2nd class citizens until the last 100 years, and couldn't even get their own credit until the 60's or later-
we just go back to men thinking of women as sex objects.
Depends on how you define "sex object". Clearly the biological function of the female is procreation and perpetuation of the species. In that context sex is required to reproduce. In order to make sex an attractive alternative to no sex, males and females have to want it. Desire leads to wanting it which leads to sex which leads to baby which leads to perpetuation of the species.
Nobody is saying women are not as intelligent as men, deserve equal pay, equal rights so on and so forth, but that's not power.
However, there are physiological brain differences between men and women, the hippocampus (sp) for one. These differences along with hormonal influences can and do change the way the sexes see the same issue and problem solve. Women are much better at holistic problem solving while men are better at surgical fine detail problem solving.
I don't mean that as some dark plan they hatched to deceive. I simply meant that men ARE SO USE to being in authority in just about every place in life that they know nothing else. For years and centuries women stayed home, took care of that side of life...we were not challenging their authority bc men WERE their authority and women were in their places as homemakers. That dosent mean they were mistreated. It just means society saw men as the providers, the money earner, the protector. And in that came the hierarchy of relationships and family and the men were the bosses, the authority, if fo no other reason than women couldn't earn their own way, as they do now.
I honestly believe men do not want to appear to be emotionally attached to a woman bc they view it as weakness. And that's really what most females want, that attachment on an emotional level. Hence the games. Men have been bridled with the stigma of being "strong and in control" to the point they arent suppose to be emotional. Now, women crave to have that emotion. It's pretty easy to see what happened.
Joe Blow --- 6 min ago - quote - hide comments Why is it so hard to believe men often have the "maybe someday" vibe in their head when it comes to trying to be platonic with a female? You must not read much.
That's quite the condenscension, implication and insult. Someone please ice this rude poster.